Do You Blame Others for Your Blocked Goals?

The following devotional has been meaningful to my personal life.  It was authored by Dr. Neil Anderson.  Often in my life I have blamed others for not reaching my goals and have overly reacted as a result.  If you have behaved similarly, read the below:

Ephesians 4:31 – Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander by put away from you, along with all malice.

Feelings of anger should prompt us to reexamine what we believe and the mental goals we have formulated to accomplish those beliefs. My daughter Heidi helped me with this process one Sunday morning while I was trying to hustle my family out the door for church. I had been waiting in the car for several minutes before I stomped back into the house and shouted angrily, “We should have left for church 15 minutes ago!”

All was silent for a moment, then Heidi’s soft voice floated around the corner from her bedroom: “What’s the matter, Dad? Did somebody block your goal?” She was blocking my goal to get to church on time, but she wasn’t blocking my goal to be the husband and father God wants me to be. The only one who can block that goal is me.

A wife and mother may say, “My goal in life is to have a loving, harmonious, happy family.” Who can block that goal? Every person in her family can block her goal–not only can , they will! A homemaker clinging to the belief that her self-worth is dependent on her family will crash and burn every time her husband or children fail to live up to her image of family harmony. She will probably be a very angry woman, which could drive family members even farther away from her and each other. Her major goal in life should be to become the wife and mother God called her to be. 

A pastor may say, “My goal in ministry is to reach this community for Christ.” Good goal? It is a wonderful desire, but if his self-worth is dependent on that desire being fulfilled, he will experience tremendous emotional turmoil. Every person in the community can block his goal. Pastors who continue to believe that their success is dependent on others will end up fighting with their boards, praying their opposition out of the church or quitting.

Make it your goal to be what God has called Y-O-U to be. No one can keep you from reaching that goal but you.

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