Proverbs 6:16-19 records the “six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.”
The second thing on the above list detestable to God is “a lying tongue.” Synonyms of the word “detestable” are hated, loathed, repugnant, repulsive, revolting, disgusting, despicable, abominable, repellant, and abhorrent. There is no way you can build a close, intimate, strong, powerful relationship with God and be a liar. If you think about the devil, the first thing that comes to mind is that he is a liar. John 8:44 is clear about this, “You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”
Attempting to grow a relationship with a liar is very frustrating. Why? You cannot build a solid foundation. There is never a clear understanding. You are in quicksand, unsettled and rootless. God hates lying. It is an enormous inhibitor to growing personal connections which is at the very heart of God. Lying (even little white lies) can lead to feelings of betrayal, hurts and distrust which trigger bigger relational issues. There is nothing “little” about deception.
Jesus describes Himself as “THE WAY, THE TRUTH AND THE LIGHT” in John 14:6. Truth is at the core of God’s being. In John 8:31&32, Jesus says, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. 32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Once you get to know Jesus, you will discover that His Word is all about the truth, and it sets you free.
Truth is the cornerstone of relationships. Paul the Apostle in Ephesians 4:15 declares, “speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” When we learn to speak the truth, relationships are free to grow, flourish and mature. Truth is edifying.
In Psalms 25:4&5, David cries to God, “Show me your ways, Lord, teach me your paths.
Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.” When we are guided by our God of truth, we are rescued and delivered and have hope all day long. Inhabitants on planet earth are crying for deliverance and hope which will never be found in this world. Why? “The whole world is under the control of the evil one (the devil)” who is the father of lies.
You have to stop lying if you want to know God and build meaningful relationships. If it has become a habit, choose to tell the truth even when you feel backed into a corner. You will discover others may not like the answer but will be greatly relieved, and you will feel tons better about yourself. Start meditating on His Word and get into a Godly accountability group like Re:Gen, Celebrate Recovery or a transparent Life Group where people will support you without judging you. These folks will rejoice with you when you take even little steps towards recovery. You will find hope!