A number of us have separated from others mentally and emotionally if not physically. We find ourselves hour after hour stewing in anger, bitter about how we have been treated or what someone has done to us. Many of us have isolated ourselves because of fear which comes in many different flavors. If we are honest, we think our situation is different. No one understands. By the way, for years I was just like you. I had “my depression” that I needed hours by myself to work out in my own mind. It produced an immense amount of overhead to my wellbeing. I was embarrassed of my position and did not want anyone to know the negative unhealthy thoughts that I experienced on a daily basis. Notice that I used the term “my depression.” When we start using first person possessive, we are in trouble. It becomes a big part of my identity. “No one will understand me.” I am just different from others.
Paul the Apostle let’s all of us know that “our problem” is not unique. 1 Corinthians 10:13 declares, “13 No trial has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tested beyond what you can bear. But when you are tested, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” Paul explains that “our problem” are not “special”. The devil constantly whispers lies to us that “my problem” is distinct from any other’s issue. He is not telling you the truth. John 8:44 makes it clear that the internal voice comes from a “liar…that’s just his nature.” Stop believing these lies! “God is faithful… he will not let you be tested beyond what you can bear. But when you are tested, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” God will lead you out of your situation.
You will not be liberated while in isolation. Proverbs 18:1, “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.” While isolated, it becomes all about you and your problem. There is a lot of “I” in Isolation. Personal evaluation of your situation is “against all sound judgement” meaning that it is unhealthy and unsafe. You need solid advice from others who can clearly help you out of your darkness. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 states, 9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: 10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. 11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” This text is clear. If you try to live life on your own, you will fail and become overpowered. Isolation leads to desolation. “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” means you and another with the center cord being God.
James 5:16 (Amplified Bible) makes it clear, “16 Therefore, confess your sins (your false steps, your offenses), and pray for one another, that you may be healed and restored.” If you want to be healed, find a Godly trusted friend who will be open and honest with you and will pray with you. Find a recovery group like Re:Gen or go to AA. These are big steps for the rest of your life.
Don’t run and hide. Proverbs 28:1 exclaims, “The wicked flee when no one pursues, but the righteous are bold as a lion.” Isolation is desolation.