A small rudder makes a huge ship tuen wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong. In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark canst a great forest on fire. James 3:4-5
Words are powerful. According to the apostle James, they can turn the course of life like a rudder turns a ship or provoke a conflict like a spark starts a forest fire. In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “No man has a prosperity so high or firm, but that two or three words can dishearten it; and there is no calamity which right words will not begin to address.” Whether good or bad, words can have a deep and lasting impact.
That means what we say to each other—especially to our kids—is extremely important. Our families can live in peace or be filled with conflict all because of a few well-timed or poorly timed words. words can inspire wonder, kindle hope, or provide direction; or they can tear down, dampen spirits, and destroy initiative. That applies to anyone, but especially to kids who are still looking for affirmation and significance from the people they look up to. They need to be affirmed and guided. They need encourgement, counsel, and love. Their lives need to be filled with positive expressions about who they are and what their potential is . Like all of us, the need to hear good things from those who love them.
Resolve to use your words to build people up. If you need to say something negative, phrase it in such a way that it has some element of encouragement and hope. When you commit to encouraging, comforting, and strengthening others with your speech, you are not only making their lives better, you’re also making yours better by surrounding yourself with people who are affirmed and encouraged. Words can bring peace, forgiveness, restorations, instruction, and strength to all your relationships. Make sure you communicate openly and lovingly with everyone–especially those closest to you, and especially your children. Your words really can change lives.