One of the most intimate passages in scripture occurred at the baptism of Jesus. Mark 1 succinctly states the experience this way, 9 At that time Jesus came from Nazareth in Galilee and was baptized by John in the Jordan. 10 Just as Jesus was coming up out of the water, he saw heaven being torn open and the Spirit descending on him like a dove. 11 And a voice came from heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.” Jesus came to reconcile man mediating the gap between a holy God and sinful man. To do this, he had to be a man just like you and me with the same potential for passions and sin. Hebrew 4 states it this way, 15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. As a man, Jesus chose to be obedient to his father, even being obedient to baptism by another man, John. At that moment Jesus came out of the water, God His Father gave him a beautiful, freeing blessing, “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.” What a beautiful, edifying, liberating blessing. As a man, his Father blessed Him. Notice the elements of the blessing:
- You are my son
- Whom I love
- With you I am well pleased (fully accepted, respected and appreciated)
Isn’t it interesting that immediately after being baptism and receiving the blessing from his Dad, he was sent to the desert for 40 days and nights and had a personal encounter with the devil and his deception. The timing of his Father was perfect. As a man, Jesus needed to know that he had the full blessing of his Father. He went to the desert empowered.
Has your dad blessed you? I didn’t receive the blessing of my dad. In fact, my mom a couple of weeks before she died in July 2017 told me that I broke my father’s heart by making a decision that he did not favor when I was 18 years of age…1967! By the way, this was not a surprise to me. I knew that my dad had emotionally walked away from me. The result? Feelings of shame, considered myself to be a failure, rejected, de-valued, disrespected and most of all, not loved. My self-talk became very harsh. If I talked to others the way I talked to myself, I would have had no friends and no one who would have wanted to be in my presence. This self-talk led to severe depression for many years.
In 1997, my wife gave me a book called “Learning To Tell Myself the Truth” by Backus. Backus meticulously using God’s Word taught me how to work out the wonderful salvation and blessing of Jesus. The truth is, “There is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1)….nada, zero condemnation. Why? Because I am now positioned in Christ Jesus, not guilty. I have a new Father who loves me (John 3:16) and “gave his only Son for me” to save me. 2 Corinthians 5:21, “21 God made him who had no sin to be sinfor us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” In him, I have the righteousness of God…fully loved, totally appreciated, completely respected and absolutely accepted. My heavenly Father has given me his blessing…personal recognition and application of this is incredibly edifying, healing, fulfilling and liberating.
So, here’s the deal. If you are like me, you have not received the blessing of your Dad…hurtful. The good news? You have the blessing of God the Father. Start walking today in that light.
Furthermore, in Romans 15:7, it declares for us to “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Dude, I challenge you to get up out of your easy chair and bless each of your kids telling them:
- “You are my child
- I love you
- With you I am well pleased”…start the journey of healing the relationships between you and each of your children especially your boys. Make sure that each of them are assured of your blessings…the blessings of a father.