Love is not self-seeking (1 Cor. 13:5, NIV). The ESV states it this way, “love does not insist on its own way.” Let’s be rigorously honest/flat out candid for a few minutes. Are you all about you? Do things have to be done your way? If either or both question(s) are answered in the affirmative, some work needs to be done. Philippians 2:12-13 declares that we must, “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, 13 for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.” I am going to challenge you to “work out” things before God and allow Him to “work in” to develop the character of Christ (Romans 8:29).
The Bible tells us in Psalm 119:11, “I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.” Allow me to share some powerful verses that may impact self-centeredness and the need to control. Then, I am going to ask you memorize and meditate on these verses. Make them a part of your walk.
Philippians 2 3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Humbly get before God and ask Him to make this real in your life. If you are a controller, don’t interpret this verse as you know more about what’s best for another individual than they do. Encourage others to speak for themselves then encourage and serve them. Genuinely, look after the interest of others. You will see something beautiful occur and closer relationships than you ever thought imaginable.
Another powerful verse is Galatians 2:20, I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. It is not “me, myself and I.” It is living in His power, will, attitude and perspective not your own.
Let’s look at another mind-blowing passage…electric stuff! John 13 2 The evening meal was in progress…3 Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; 4 so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. 5 After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. Jesus knew God the Father had placed all power under His power. What did He do? Demand others allegiance and the control of their life. No, He humbly served them. Later in the passage, Jesus states, 17 Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them. He says for us to humbly serve others and not demand to do things your way. And, He guarantees you will be blessed!
Are you a self-seeker or one who demands your way? Surrender this to Him and allow Him to show His love and encouragement to others. Become a facilitator and not a demander. You will get a front row seat watching others grow. Amen!