Transparency trumps fear

Therefore, no condemnation now exists for those in Christ Jesus, because the Spirit’s law of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death.

Romans 8:1-2 HCSB
Last evening we enjoyed a new family to our home group. Instead of catching them up on a lesson from the current study in James, we opted for sharing our stories across the room. Allowing some time for this sharing opened up the avenue to getting to know each other and breaking down possible fears or hesitations that may exist for a first time introduction such as this.
Our new family shared first, and then the next family, and although I have heard parts of our other couples story before, we were blessed with new pieces of the story that really showed their faith and interactions and explained much of how they met, raised their child, and moved to Texas. Hearing from the new group also helped us to understand their background, some key points to communication in their marriage, and more about their children, now playing in the other room with all the other kids. Thinking back this morning, there is really no faster track to friendship than hearing the story from a transparent and faith filled past.
When it was our turn, we joked about talk time, and how I typically go too long in descriptions or information, but I continued none the less. What happened, however, was as I started, I did not do a great job of checking the eye contact with my wife, and body language, and shortly into our bio I realized I was unleashing information so fast, that my wife was struck by the intensity of our past pains and my failures to our family. Although we have shared often and descriptively, I never asked Heather if she was ready to describe our whole deal, nor did I check in with her throughout the testimony to see how she was feeling. I have made a poor practice of failing in this “checking in” idea, and sincerely want to get better at it. Despite the emotions, Heather stepped in and explained this to me clearly, aided me to finish and the group moved on. I was heartbroken that I had missed such an important part of marriage that is “reading the temperature” gauge of a situation while it is happening. I apologized not only to the group for the fire hose description but also  again to Heather after the fact. And then again this morning.
As usual, my wife Heather holds the most grace in our home. She showed this last evening and again this morning with her text back to me as I re-visited my flaw. Her text to me reads … “i don’t mind telling our story, Like I said last night, it’s just when it’s new people that i get choked up. I don’t mind when telling our story, so seriously it’s nothing to apologize for.”    Her words right there did so much for me and my guilt and conviction left. It was over ,and she was still the amazing, grace-filled girl that loves the guy that messes up a lot. I’m not saying that to brag on how great I have it but to point out how powerful the love of Christ is when locked into the hearts of His children.  Read the verse again:

Therefore, no condemnation now exists for those in Christ Jesus, because the Spirit’s law of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death.

Romans 8:1-2 HCSB
Thanks to Christ, my worry is gone. My self doubts and self loathings are gone. Heather has allowed me to see this verse played out in person MANY times, but more importantly, she reminds me that this is what GOD says to us…. Daily! There is NO Condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. That’s for me, that’s for you, that’s for the guy in traffic that you may have wished otherwise for this morning. God takes all that negative on Himself and has freed us from it.
So we have to accept that it’s nothing to keep looming over once the confession and repentance takes place. God erases the acts or failures and replaces them with more of Himself and GRACE and MERCY and LIFE and PEACE and JOY and ETERNITY.  Let’s come together this morning and just dwell on those 6 words…
The fears, failures, guilt and shame are lifted for the man or woman that calls on the Lord. Your transparency trumps fear. Be honest with it and God will bless that now, and forever.

Author: Brenden Kurtz

Kingdom now. A Life interrupted by the Great I am. Project love unto others, both known and unknown, & to elevate one's attitude and aptitude.

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