Over five consecutive Wednesday’s we are using our five physical senses (taste, touch, smell, sight and hearing) to illustrate truths about God. This week we will talk about hearing aka listening.
To communicate effectively an environment must be created where the talker feels safe. Effective listening is creating an inviting, safe environment. Non-verbal is estimated to be 93% of effective communication…the listener’s posture, expression, genuineness, trustfulness, focus, commitment, etc. If you are in attack mode, you will blow up safe conversation. If you do not feel your spouse, child, friend, employee, etc. are safe with you or you are not safe with them, ask God to make the following verses come alive to you:
Proverb 29:25 Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.
1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
If you are a talker not a listener, God will kick you in the backside as will others (especially our wives! 😊) with these three verses:
James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
Proverb 18:13 To answer before listening — that is folly and shame.
Proverb 18:15 The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.
Listening is not focused on you, it is focused on another. That is really difficult for most of us. If you think about it, humility is a huge part of being a good listener. And oh, by the way, to be a good listener, you have to genuinely want to understand the other person. Whether you agree or not, your job as a good listener is to try to mirror back to make sure you understand the other person, then validate them (does not mean you agree…your job is to transcend to their world…”I see how you got there.”) and empathize with their feeling. Good listening is not trying to win an argument or making your point known. It is genuinely wanting to know in a compassionate manner. I don’t know about you, but I need work here! Listen to this “punch-in-the-mouth” verse regarding listening to our wives:
1 Peter 3:7 Live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor…since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
A great illustration of good listening is a catcher in baseball:
- Pitchers and catchers are trained to be and must be in synch.
- The pitcher has to trust the catcher.
- A great catcher is also called a great receiver.
- A catcher is measured by the success of his pitcher.
- You hear a pitcher often say that he prefers to pitch to a certain catcher because he understands me.
- A great catcher is known to be a great student of the pitcher and the opposing team.
- A great catcher knows how to console and motivate his pitcher when things are not going well.
- When a pitcher loses focus, a trusted catcher has to be firm without threatening the pitcher.
- A great catcher is unselfish.
- A great catcher never embarrasses his pitcher in front of others.
Hey guys, let’s honor God and those who “pitch” to us and become “great catchers!”