No man left behind

Proverbs 18:1 – Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.

Over the last 5 years or so I have met many believers, typically men, that live by an unspoken idea, “I’ll go at this alone.”  Another way they’ll say this is, “i keep to myself, mind my own P’s and Q’s. ”

Or how about this one? “No one’s helped me before and no one’s going to help me now…”

All pretty tough and admiral qualities in a world or “go out and get what you want” right?


Fact is God does not intend we live alone, work alone, worship alone, and love alone. God’s plan includes community and friendships and coordination with one another in unity. Whether in marriage, friendships, our local church body….   everywhere, doing life together.  In fact, every successful politician, every trusted CEO, every great quarterback, baseball, basketball, hockey players, great doctors, tradesman, preachers, they all have the same background, an incredible TEAM behind them.

Going at this life alone leads to one outcome, everytime…. destruction. Whether through pride or self destruction the man that walks alone walks empty and un-empowered and selfish. I think often due to busted emotions, bad relationships, or just overall poor situations, we as men, find oursleves thinking, “The hell  with this .. i’ll do it myself”.

Here me correctly in this, I am a strong believer in hard work, perseverance, and dedication to committed sweat and elbow grease to get things done. However, there is a POWER and BLESSING in allowing others to help us, aid us, counsel us, and support us along the way. Isolation, in my own experience and via witnessing the experiences of countless others, ALWAYS leads to sin. It may not always be obvious right away or may not always show up quickly but make no mistake, it will show up.

Heed the Proverb this morning, “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.”

When you get to the point that you’re feeling comfortable and confident and ready to take on the world, pick up the phone and call a friend, meet up for a coffee or sandwich and bounce some of your thoughts to another brother. Allow someone from an outside perspective to shed a little light on your vision.  THIS CAN BE YOUR SOUND JUDGEMENT!


Father, give us the desire to lean on others. God, take away the prideful tendencies we have that cause isolation and sin. Help us to reach out and be INTENTIONAL about our friendships, and marriages, and relations at work that we MAY BE USING SOUND JUDGEMENT in all things. Father, build around us the community that you desire for us to thrive in and heighten our sense of awareness within it. We need you Father and WE NEED to see that others matter and that others can SAVE US from great troubles when we isolate. 


Author: Brenden Kurtz

Kingdom now. A Life interrupted by the Great I am. Project love unto others, both known and unknown, & to elevate one's attitude and aptitude.

2 thoughts on “No man left behind”

  1. Good stuff Brenden. I spent 30+ years isolated. It will lead to the root of all kinds of destruction deep in your soul. Thanks for spurring me to take a fresh look to assess if I am isolating again.


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