Lousy Leader … Forgiveness

Good Morning Champions!!!

I fully intended for today’s blog to be on the Lousy Leader and to build upon that from my own personal experience as an employee and as a leader. I left it in below … since it was already there … but as I continued to write and study, the Lord really took me to FORGIVENESS! I am not one to argue with God, but I can definitely be stubborn! The more I pushed on this topic, the more unsettled I became.

I have been in the “workplace” for a long time. I started working on a farm when we lived overseas at about 6 years old (paid in homemade ice cream!). I had my first paper route at 10, bagged groceries, lifeguard at 14, etc. etc, etc! Now in my 30’s (that’s a big joke) … I have seen my share of some of the best bosses I have ever known and, unfortunately, some of the absolute worst. I would love to spend my time here telling you about the great ones and the incredible influence they have had on my personal life and professional career, but the one that has me hung up on just going with the below text … was one of the absolute WORST!

Of course I will not name names, but this one, who claims to be a Christian, has done everything in his power to derail me. He has lied to me and others … and admitted it when I called him on it! He has cheated to make himself look better! He is the reason I left a job I absolutely loved! I have not worked for this guy in a number of years and just the other night, out of the blue, I had a dream that we got into a physical altercation! And YES … I kicked his butt!!!

I would love to write today that I have relinquished this all to the Lord and He has restored my relationship with this guy and there is harmony, butterflies and rainbows every time I encounter my former boss. But as much as I have spoken the words I forgive him to God. I obviously still struggle in this area. As I reflect on what he has done to me, I realize that I can deal with the lying and cheating … but, this guy called into question my integrity at some point! I have a unique ability of being able to just blow stuff off. If someone does me wrong, I can easily walk away, stop associating with them and never talk to them again. Probably from growing up in the military and moving so many times? I have never let a person get to me like this guy did … does!

I am really just sharing to be transparent and maybe allow this to open a dialog regarding an area of unforgiveness you need to address. I don’t have the answer in this case and of course there is a lot more to it that I can … or should … include here! So, I ask for your prayers! And I am praying for you! Thank you for letting me have this cathartic moment

There are so many scriptures addressing forgiveness, but the one that comes to mind is John 8:36, “If the Son sets you free, you are free indeed.”

Father, I pray you help each of us address the unforgiveness we may have towards another or even ourselves. No matter the relationship, Lord, I pray that You would reach to the heart of the matter and bring healing and reconciliation and that You would be glorified through it!!!


Luke 16:1-13 – “Jesus told his disciples: “There was a rich man whose manager was accused of wasting his possessions. So he called him in and asked him, ‘What is this I hear about you? Give an account of your management, because you cannot be manager any longer.’ “The manager said to himself, ‘What shall I do now? My master is taking away my job. I’m not strong enough to dig, and I’m ashamed to beg— I know what I’ll do so that, when I lose my job here, people will welcome me into their houses.’ “So he called in each one of his master’s debtors. He asked the first, ‘How much do you owe my master?’ “‘Nine hundred gallons[a] of olive oil,’ he replied. “The manager told him, ‘Take your bill, sit down quickly, and make it four hundred and fifty.’ “Then he asked the second, ‘And how much do you owe?’ “‘A thousand bushels[b] of wheat,’ he replied. “He told him, ‘Take your bill and make it eight hundred.’ “The master commended the dishonest manager because he had acted shrewdly. For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light. I tell you, use worldly wealth to gain friends for yourselves, so that when it is gone, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings. 10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. 11 So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? 12 And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own? 13 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.”

Lessons from a Lousy Leader

Jesus’ story of an unrighteous manager teaches us lessons about shrewd business and a few subtle truths about leadership.

This lousy leader:

Violated rule number one: Leadership is not to be used for personal benefit (v. 1). He forgot that leadership is about giving, not getting. Leaders lose the right to be selfish.

Learned that a leader cannot hide his heart (vv. 1, 2). Leadership rises or falls to the level of the leader’s integrity. Leaders are vulnerable.

Was proactive in facing problems (v. 3). He surmised how he could address the problem. Good leaders aren’t afraid to face reality.

Understood the value of relationships (v. 4). He utilized the relationships he had developed already. He received a return on his investment.

Understood the nature of his influence (vv. 4, 5). Since leadership is influence, leaders know with whom they have influence—and they go there.

Learned the keys to motivating others (vv. 5–7). Everyone is motivated in different ways. He found ways to make friends and get results.

Reminds us of the value of godly leadership (vv. 8–10). In the end, his master praised his shrewdness; but Jesus has a deeper lesson for us

One thought on “Lousy Leader … Forgiveness”

  1. Can fully relate to this and also your (our) reaction and the usual ability to move on, but that this one just remains… I was helped by a book by Lewis Smedes, The Art of Forgiving. The premise is: forgiveness is God’s opportunity for us to heal. This has helped me.


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