Yesterday it happened…
My oldest daughter, Taylor Rae, was proposed to by the man of “her dreams.” As we all gathered together two unique families from two different walks of life and location.. A unity bond occurred.
Not only have I been able to watch this young lady and young man mature, I have been fortunate enough to receive PLENTY of lessons from each of them for my own life. I think rarely as parents we fail to see the TEACHING that can come from our own relationships with our kids, possibly missing MANY incredible lessons out of arrogance, stubbornness, pride, or possibly embarrassment. So in honor of their proposal last night, i’d like to share a small portion of the LESSONS these two blessings of mine have delivered:
- Life is a mixed tape – Often we plan and purpose and stage and prepare yet no matter how large the effort or how precise we schedule, life happens and things change. This girl was the LAST one in our family that wanted to come to Texas 3 years ago and was kicking and screaming the whole way. After a few rough months of transition, she taught me that if you can’t make the most out of your situation, you can’t complain about it either. She went to work in a town where she had no contacts, started university studies, gained employment at multiple places, and connected through the local church body with others. It was not shortly there after that the “man of her dreams” walked into her life and everything she had been planning, staging, and scheduling changed again. Adversity is an opportunity for blessing.
- We’re on borrowed time – When i met Casey under the conditions present in the beginning I was not his biggest fan. I presumed there were character flaws, not good enough for my daughter, long before I actually shook his hand. You see, when you create something in your mind without facts and truth, it can grow into a complete belief that you may allow to control you for WAY TOO LONG. I wasted a good 3 to 4 months of our relationship due to my own need to flush out all of the garbage in my head that was built up. The first words I heard him speak were eloquent, sincere, and more transparent than the majority of the men I have met over my 44 years of life. We are on borrowed time. If you want to waste on more second of your life believing an lie, holding a grudge or bitterness toward someone, or whatever it is… it is your OWN LOSS.
- Hope for Growth – There are many things these adult children of our have taught me but especially important is the Hope for growth. Taylor had given me a lesson almost five years back when she learned and witnessed me struggling with a co-worker simply due to a life choice of that co-worker. I was so ignorant to love and the “ABILITY TO LOVE” despite myself, that i almost lost a life changing career over it. We are built and created to grow and to hope. Yet, i believe, as Taylor and now also Casey have taught me, you cannot grow hope without others. Isolation and independence DO NOTHING for the Kingdom of God. NO ONE changes the world or betters the human race without interaction with the human race. Perhaps we start leaning into each other and trying to count on one another for hope and encouragement and watch what becomes…. NO ONE can truly love without exerting that love to others.
Psalm 33:22 – Let your steadfast love, O LORD, be upon us, even as we hope in you.
Father, Forgive me for my inadequate mind and weak and shallow heart. THANK YOU for removing my heart of STONE and replacing it with your heart of FLESH. Thank you for placing people in our lives that ignore the negative and shine hope for us. Please help us to drop the wasted moments and BUILD every second of our lives in LOVE, and HOPE, and GROWTH. You are our King Father. Please bless and protect and flourish these two young lives with your KINGDOM NOW. Amen.