7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
8 If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons.
9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live?.
10 For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness.
11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Often “Discipline” may be missed as “trial” or “sufferings”. There is a difference. Lessons associated with learning may be discipline; a hardship turned into a blessing may be discipline; a death leading to a conversion may be a discipline or a “feeling” that leads to sitting under a more “disciplined” learning. Point is, we are TREATED AS SONS! To be a son and daughter of the King is a holy and awesome and glorious thing! Here we see that no matter our early father relationship, our Father is heaven reigns above all that and cares so much differently for us.
I’ll be the first to acknowledge it IS HARD TO FORGET PAINFUL MEMORIES. Maybe Discipline is NOT FORGETTING them but learning from them. Maybe His discipline involves us blessing our children in a different fashion than we were blessed by our parents, or maybe treating them as equally well as we were treated. I want to not get hung up on the word “discipline” rather get hung up on “treated as sons”. God has bestowed upon us HIS same love for Christ thanks to our trust in HIM and Christ work on the cross. We are HIS sons.